[摘要]我們?cè)S多人會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)到偉大的夢(mèng)想和職業(yè)上的現(xiàn)實(shí)是自相矛盾的。不論我們多么想創(chuàng)業(yè)、寫小說(shuō)、發(fā)專輯或是演戲，我們還是被捆綁在椅子上，被我們窮途末路的日常工作所淹沒(méi)。夢(mèng)想與工作必然沖突嗎？
In the struggle to integrate work with a meaningful, fun, and fulfilling life, many of us find our big dreams colliding with our occupational realities. As much as we'd like to be starting our own businesses, finishing our novels, selling our albums, or getting out to those casting calls, we feel chained to our chairs, shackled to our spreadsheets, drowned in our dead-end day jobs.
And the prevailing wisdom is that you just have to quit the job, cut the cord, take the leap from the job that you tolerate to the work that you love. Unfortunately, following that wisdom has led far too many people to financial ruin, frustrated ambitions, and unfulfilled dreams. There's a better way -- and it doesn't involve quitting your day job to chase your dreams.
Don't be a quitter
Jon Acuff's book, Quitter, is filled with wise ideas about why keeping your day job is a better path to achieving your dreams. Here are just some of the reasons Acuff gives for keeping your day job while you pursue your dreams:
When you have a day job that meets your financial needs, you have the freedom to pursue only the things that move you closer to your dreams. When you quit your day job, you might have to say "yes" to things that make you money while actually pulling you further off course.
When you have a day job that you can contain and control, you have the time to truly plan your strategy, make connections, and lay the groundwork while still making an income.
When you have a day job that isn't quite your dream, you have the motivation to hustle in ways that move your dream forward.
From his experience and perspective, the people who build and actually achieve their biggest dreams aren't those that cut the cord rashly and irresponsibility. Instead, they're the ones you have the discipline and determination to use their current situations to support their ambitions. Here are some quotations from Quitter to give you some food for thought:
"When you keep your day job, all opportunities become surplus propositions rather than deficit remedies. You only have to take the ones that suit your dream best."
"Quitting a job doesn't jump-start a dream because dreams take planning, purpose, and progress to succeed. That stuff has to happen before you quit your day job."
"I know it sounds crazy, but people with jobs tend to have more creative freedom than people without."
Finding creative freedom in your day job
At this point, some of you might be thinking, "Yeah, that sounds great, but I have a demanding job that consumes all my energy, time, and resources." Sure. I get it. It is not easy to follow your passion(s) while also fulfilling that dream of having some food in your fridge and the electricity to keep it cold.
On the other hand, many accomplished folks -- and some outright geniuses -- have done exactly that. A little over a year ago, business journalist Lydia Dishman published an article on Fast Company's site called "10 Famous Creative Minds That Didn't Quit Their Day Jobs." Here are some of the highlights:
Dustin Hoffman, who started out wanting to be a classical pianist, started acting in his early 20's, but that did not pay the bills. While working as a theater actor before his 1967 breakthrough film role in The Graduate, he also worked as a waiter (of course), a temporary typist (not surprising), a toy demonstrator at Macy's, and an assistant at the New York Psychiatric Institute, where one of his responsibilities was holding patients down while they received shock treatments.
Sculptor Richard Serra, composers Philip Glass and Steve Reich, actor/writer Spalding Gray, painter/photographer Chuck Close all worked as furniture movers for Serra's Low Rate Movers company while building their oeuvres and reputations. Glass, who also worked as a plumber and a taxi driver, recalls one of his fares informing him that he shared a name with a very famous composer.
Five years after publishing the critically acclaimed Player Piano, writer Kurt Vonnegut opened and managed a Saab dealership on Cape Cod. Unfortunately, the business was a miserable failure. Vonnegut once quipped, "I believe my failure as a dealer so long ago explains what would otherwise remain a deep mystery: why the Swedes have never given me a Nobel Prize for literature." Prior to his misadventures in automotive commerce, Vonnegut worked as a news reporter and as a public relations flack for General Electric.
Of course, this list could go on and on. Jeff Koons was a stockbroker. Mark Rothko taught elementary school. Julian Schnabel was a dishwasher. Keith Haring was a busboy. Patti Smith worked in a used bookstore.
Keep your day job without killing your dreams
So what can you do to keep your day job without killing your dreams? Like all difficult questions, there's no single right answer, and as I've found with my coaching clients, the right solution for you won't be the right solution for anyone else. Nevertheless, here are a few possible strategies to consider when figuring out how to hold onto all the benefits -- tangible and intangible -- of a day job while still making progress toward those big ambitions:
Find an intersection between your day job and your dream. That job in the marketing department might seem like a soul-sucking grind, but might there be things you can learn from it that will make your business or your artistic endeavor more successful. On the other hand, is it possible that your experience marketing your band's CDs might actually help your employer be more successful? The ideal arrangement is if your day job somehow feeds into your dream and vice versa. Finding ways to connect the dots between how you make your living and the life you want to make is a strategy that helps many people keep their heads and their hearts while keeping their jobs.
Find a job that requires as little energy as possible. For some folks, the best path to pursuing their dreams is the one of least resistance. Philip Glass composed a truly shocking number of works while laboring in furniture moving, taxi driving, and toilet repair. Of this time, he says, "I was careful to take a job that couldn't possibly have any meaning for me." I suspect, however, that the inspiration Glass took from the people he met and experiences he had in these jobs showed up in his compositions in some way -- which brings us to the third strategy.
View your day job through the lens of your dream. Day jobs -- especially corporate ones -- get a bad rap for being heartless, faceless vampires that sap your will to live, much less dream. The truth, however, is that a job is a rich sources of experiences. You meet interesting (if sometimes maddening) people. You solve difficult (and ideally worthwhile) problems. You learn useful skills. Any and all of these things might provide inspiration for your art or girders for your business, if you shift your perspective and start looking at your day job differently.
Be practical. Many day jobs provide benefits that make dreams more achievable. Obviously, you should be using the money you make to invest in the development of your dream, but there are many other ways to use your day job practically to support your ambitions. If your employer provides tuition reimbursement or other training benefits, use them to build your knowledge, skills, and credentials. If you have access to relevant networking opportunities through your employer, take advantage of them to connect with more like-minded folks. If you have paid time off, use it occasionally to put time into your business.
Keep your head and your heart while keeping your job
Far too much well-meaning advice tells you that, in order to create a meaningful life, you have to ditch the day job dive headlong into your dreams. Unfortunately, dreams rarely come with the safety, security, and stability that good day jobs offer. Comedian and commentator Joe Rogan means well in encouraging people to take the leap, but I question both the wisdom and the confidence of his assertions:
There's no shame in wanting safety, security, and stability. At the same time, it doesn't have to come at the cost of pursuing and achieving your highest ambitions. It is possible to keep your head and your heart -- and your dreams and desires -- while keeping your job. I've watched friends, family, and coaching clients do it, and I've done it myself. Don't buy the all-or-nothing, black-and-white, cut-and-dried perspective that tells you to quit your job. You're smarter than that. And when you take a smart approach to pursuing your passions, you can both do what you love and love what you do.
To achieve all that we were meant to achieve in this life, we must bring our whole selves to work -- and to everything that we do. As Vonnegut wrote in Mother Night, "We are what we pretend to be, so we must be careful about what we pretend to be."
我們?cè)诠ぷ鞯耐瑫r(shí)，總會(huì)要結(jié)合一個(gè)有意義、好玩、有滿足感的生活，因而面對(duì)掙扎。我們?cè)S多人會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)到偉大的夢(mèng)想和職業(yè)上的現(xiàn)實(shí)是自相矛盾的。不論我們多么想創(chuàng)業(yè)、寫小說(shuō)、發(fā)專輯或是演戲，我們還是被捆綁在椅子上、被迫看數(shù)據(jù)、被我們窮途末路的日常工作所淹沒(méi)。
普遍的智慧是：你要辭掉工作，破釜沉舟，從你只能忍受的職位，轉(zhuǎn)到你會(huì)喜愛(ài)的工作。只可惜，按照這種智慧，反而造成太多人走向財(cái)務(wù)上的困難、志向受挫、夢(mèng)想無(wú)法完成。有一個(gè)比較好的方法，這個(gè)方法用不著辭掉工作，也能追逐夢(mèng)想。
不要做“辭職高手”
Jon Acuff著作的書，《辭職高手》（Quitter），有許多富有智慧的理念，解釋為什么保留日常工作是達(dá)成夢(mèng)想較好的途徑。這些是Acuff列下的幾個(gè)原因：
當(dāng)你有了一份能滿足你的財(cái)務(wù)需求的日常工作的時(shí)候，你就有了自由，讓你只追逐那些會(huì)讓你更接近夢(mèng)想的事物。如果你把工作辭掉了，你可能需要接受一些讓你賺錢，卻又將你從軌道拉開(kāi)的事物。
當(dāng)你有了一份你能限制、掌控的日常工作的時(shí)候，你就有了時(shí)間真正計(jì)劃你的策略，建立關(guān)系，趁著你還有收入的時(shí)候打好基礎(chǔ)。
當(dāng)你有了一份不完全是你的夢(mèng)想的工作的時(shí)候，你就有了意志，讓你有推動(dòng)力使夢(mèng)想推進(jìn)。
從他的經(jīng)驗(yàn)與觀點(diǎn)看，那些能夠建造并成功地達(dá)到夢(mèng)想的人，不是那些魯莽、不負(fù)責(zé)任地離職的人，而是那些有紀(jì)律與決心，用他們目前的處境來(lái)支持他們的野心的人。以下是《辭職高手》的引句，讓你深思：
“當(dāng)你保留你的工作的時(shí)候，所有的機(jī)會(huì)成為了盈余的主張，而不是虧損的彌補(bǔ)。你只需要選擇那些最適合你的夢(mèng)想的機(jī)會(huì)�！�
“辭去工作不能快速啟動(dòng)一個(gè)夢(mèng)想，因?yàn)閴?mèng)想需要計(jì)劃、目的和進(jìn)步，才能成功。這些都必須在辭去日常工作之前就做好。”
“我知道聽(tīng)起來(lái)很瘋狂，但是有工作的人往往比沒(méi)工作的人更有創(chuàng)意自由�！�
在工作中尋找創(chuàng)意自由
此時(shí)，你們有些人可能會(huì)在想：“聽(tīng)起來(lái)好棒，但是我的工作很費(fèi)力，耗盡了我的精力、時(shí)間和資源�！笔�，我明白。要追逐夢(mèng)想，同時(shí)又要冰箱里有食物、有電讓食物保冷，真不容易。
另一方面，許多杰出人物，包括一些簡(jiǎn)直是天才的人，都這么做到了。一年多前，商業(yè)記者Lydia Dishman在Fast Company的網(wǎng)頁(yè)上刊登了一篇文章，命名為《10位沒(méi)有辭掉工作的著名創(chuàng)意人士》。以下是其中突出的例子：
達(dá)斯汀·霍夫曼（Dustin Hoffman）一開(kāi)始就想當(dāng)古典鋼琴家。他20歲初期就開(kāi)始演戲，但這不足以支付他的生活費(fèi)。他在1967年在電影扮演《畢業(yè)生》（The Graduate）里的突出電影角色之前，曾任職戲劇演員，同時(shí)曾兼職侍應(yīng)生（那當(dāng)然）、臨時(shí)打字員（不足為奇）、Macy's百貨公司的玩具示范員。他也曾兼職紐約精神病學(xué)研究所的助手，當(dāng)時(shí)的其中一個(gè)職責(zé)就是在病人接受電休克治療時(shí)將他們按住。
雕刻家Richard Serra、作曲家Philip Glass 及 Steve Reich、演員兼作家 Spalding Gray 及畫家兼攝影師Chuck Close 都曾經(jīng)在他們創(chuàng)作作品、創(chuàng)造名譽(yù)的同時(shí)，在Serra的“廉價(jià)搬遷”（ Low Rate Movers）公司任職家具搬運(yùn)員。之前也當(dāng)過(guò)水管工人和德士司機(jī)的Glass回憶，他曾有一名顧客對(duì)他說(shuō)，他和某位著名的作曲家同名同姓。
作家Kurt Vonnegut在他出版了廣受好評(píng)的《自動(dòng)演奏鋼琴》（Player Piano）的五年后，曾在科德角創(chuàng)立和經(jīng)營(yíng)了一家 Saab 經(jīng)銷商。但是，生意卻徹底地失敗了。Vonnegut 曾調(diào)侃道，“我相信我那么久前作為經(jīng)銷商的失敗，解釋了這個(gè)深之迷，就是瑞典人為什么從來(lái)沒(méi)有頒諾貝爾文學(xué)獎(jiǎng)給我�！盫onnegut 在汽車商務(wù)遇上麻煩之前，也曾擔(dān)任新聞?dòng)浾撸约巴ㄓ秒姎獾墓P(guān)。
當(dāng)然，這個(gè)名單可以列個(gè)不停。Jeff Koons曾是股票經(jīng)紀(jì)人.。Mark Rothko曾在小學(xué)教書。Julian Schnabel 曾是洗碗員。Keith Haring 曾是打雜員。Patti Smith曾在舊書商工作。
保住日常工作，不必抹滅夢(mèng)想
怎樣才能不用抹滅夢(mèng)想，又能繼續(xù)自己的日常工作呢？每個(gè)困難的問(wèn)題，都沒(méi)有統(tǒng)一的正確答案。我從訓(xùn)練班上的客戶學(xué)到的是，你的理想選擇不會(huì)是別人的理想選擇。盡管如此，這里有幾個(gè)可以考慮的策略，幫助你想出如何抓住日常工作有形與無(wú)形的好處，同時(shí)又能向大志愿邁進(jìn)：
找出日常工作和夢(mèng)想之間的交接點(diǎn)。那個(gè)營(yíng)銷部門的工作或許沉悶不堪，但你在那里是否能學(xué)到一些能幫助你的營(yíng)業(yè)或藝術(shù)工程更成功的事物？另一方面，你為樂(lè)團(tuán)營(yíng)銷CD的經(jīng)驗(yàn)，是否能讓你的雇主更成功？最理想的安排，就是你的日常工作能和你的夢(mèng)想有關(guān)聯(lián)，反之亦然。尋找連接兩者的方法，就是一種幫助很多人在日常工作中保持思想理性、心情愉快的策略。
尋找一份不需用到太多精力的工作。對(duì)有些人來(lái)說(shuō)，追逐夢(mèng)想的最佳途徑，就是阻力最小的那個(gè)途徑。Philip Glass在忙于搬運(yùn)家具、駕駛德士與修理廁所的當(dāng)兒，創(chuàng)作了驚人數(shù)目的作品。他談?wù)撨@個(gè)時(shí)期時(shí)說(shuō)，“我故意選擇了對(duì)我不可能有任何意義的工作�！钡俏覒岩�，Glass從工作上遇見(jiàn)的人和經(jīng)歷的事所得到的靈感，都以某種形式出現(xiàn)在他的作品里頭。這剛好把我們帶到第三個(gè)策略。
從你的夢(mèng)想的角度對(duì)待你的日常工作。日常工作，尤其是企業(yè)工作，有著“吸血鬼”的壞名聲，因?yàn)樗鼰o(wú)情無(wú)面，會(huì)吸干你的生存的意志，更別說(shuō)是夢(mèng)想了。實(shí)際上，工作是經(jīng)驗(yàn)的一個(gè)豐富的來(lái)源。你會(huì)遇見(jiàn)有趣（又時(shí)常令人抓狂）的人。你要處理困難（理想中又有意義）的問(wèn)題。你會(huì)學(xué)到有用的技巧。這些事物可能會(huì)為你的藝術(shù)提供靈感，或者為你的事業(yè)提供支撐。你只要轉(zhuǎn)移角度，以不同的眼光看待你的日常工作。
要實(shí)際一些。許多日常工作提供的福利會(huì)幫助夢(mèng)想變得更容易實(shí)現(xiàn)。顯然地，你應(yīng)該利用賺來(lái)的錢投資于你的夢(mèng)想的發(fā)展。但是，還有許多方法能讓你利用日常工作，實(shí)際地支持你的志愿。如果你的雇主提供學(xué)費(fèi)補(bǔ)貼或其他培訓(xùn)福利，就利用它來(lái)增長(zhǎng)你的知識(shí)、技能及學(xué)歷。如果你能通過(guò)雇主獲取相關(guān)的交流機(jī)會(huì)，就利用它和志同道合的人聯(lián)系。如果你享有有薪假期，就偶爾把這個(gè)時(shí)間花在你的生意上面。
守住日常工作的同時(shí)，保持你的理智、你的心
有太多善意的忠告會(huì)告訴我們說(shuō)，如果要?jiǎng)?chuàng)造有意義的生活，就要放開(kāi)日常工作，一頭栽進(jìn)你的夢(mèng)想。遺憾的是，夢(mèng)想很少會(huì)帶來(lái)日常工作所有的安全、保障及穩(wěn)定。喜劇演員兼評(píng)論員Joe Rogan呼吁人們勇敢抉擇的忠告，是出自善意，但是我質(zhì)疑他的忠告的智慧與信心：
想要安全、保障及穩(wěn)定沒(méi)有錯(cuò)。與此同時(shí)，要有這些，不需要付出放棄追求并達(dá)到夢(mèng)想的代價(jià)。保持你的理智、你的心、你的夢(mèng)想與渴望，是有可能的。我親眼看到朋友、家人、訓(xùn)練班客戶都做到了，我自己也做到了。不要太過(guò)黑白分明地相信你必須辭掉你的工作。你比這更聰明。當(dāng)你采取精明的做法追逐夢(mèng)想的時(shí)候，你就可以做你所愛(ài)的事，愛(ài)你所做的事。
要實(shí)現(xiàn)我們今生應(yīng)該實(shí)現(xiàn)的事，我們就要全力以赴。就如Vonnegut 在《茫茫黑夜》（Mother Night）里寫道，“我們就像我們所假裝的那樣，所以我們要謹(jǐn)慎自己假裝什么�！� |
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